Emotional Styles

Do you ever think of? who you are of these?

ABANDONMENT: Ongoing fear that people will leave is at the root of this emotional style. People fear the once they love will leave or they may adapt by running away from a relationship before they can get hurt.

ENTITLEMENT:People with this style feel that rules don't apply to them. They have been spoiled as a child or the love they received was based on a certain quality like looks, academics, athletic skills. These people often exaggerate, usually to hide a feeling of inadequacy or feel they are entitled to more than their fair share of compensation. They also lack self discipline. You are drawn to people who makes decisions for you. You feel guilty about having needs or wants of your own. You feel resentful when your needs or wishes aren't considered.

MISTRUST: Suspiciousness are quick temper are typical of this emotional style. the mistrust stems from having been physically, sexually or emotional abused. People of this style tend to gravitate to relationships in which their worst fears are confirmed, getting involved with people who treats them badly. People fear they won't succeed at anything no matter how hard they try. As children they were put down or made feel inept.

UNLOVABLE: Shame and humiliation along with a feeling of being flawed. Some give in to their deep feelings of unworthiness while others hide behind arrogance, seeking public recognition and adulation. People with this emotional style find it hard to be genuine in a relationship. People hold themselves to the highest standards but feel it's never good enough. As children they were made to feel they could always do better no matter what they have accomplished. Peoples relationship suffer because they push them self to hard.

PERFECTIONISM: People with this style unrelentingly hold them selves to the highest standards. No Matter how well they do it's never good enough. They drive themselves until the rest of their life suffers. This emotional style drives people to push themselves in sports, at school in physical appearance or for social status. People find themselves in a caretaker role with others. Are drawn to relationships with people who are cold or self-absorbed.

Today's Wisdom:

"Most of us do not like to look inside ourselves for the same reasons we don't
like to open a letter that has bad news"

Love Always Anna Anka